You should never forget the concept that a loving relationship between partners should be all about love and respect. There are a lot of truly healthy relationships, in which partners maintain good communication, show respect and affection to each other and work hard in order to keep their relationship in good-standing.
But, unfortunately, there are also a lot of relationships that look nothing like the aforementioned relationship. What is even more distressing is that many of these destructive relationships evolved despite early signs of dysfunction. For ladies, these kind of signs should be deal breakers that scream “Don’t Marry Him!”.
And, the biggest deal breaker should be the following:
1. Temper and violence
You should not wait the violence to become physical, in order to set off alarms. When the man is prone to excessive verbal outbursts and physical actions, like destroying some kind of property, it can be nothing more than a matter of time before the violence turns in the form of physical abuse, used towards his partner. The worst thing about temper and violence is that they tend to escalate and can’t be easily fixed without counseling.
2. Infidelity – “Once a cheater, always a cheater”
Once the person shows some willingness for crossing the line, that willingness will exist forever. When the man you have, has some history of infidelity in prior relationships, as well as cheats early within the existing one, and the love and respect that are necessary, don;t exist, the thing are only going to get worse. The growth of relationships may only happen when people take them one at a time.
Some of the highly destructive behavioral problems, that tend to take down anything in its path are drug abuse, alcoholism, s*x addiction and compulsive gambling. There are too many women that feel compelled to “save” the addict from himself. The truth about most addicts is that they need intensive counseling and support, just to gain and ounce of abstinence. So, women are always ill-prepared to “fix” a sick addict.
4. Possessive behavior
When the man shows some signs of extreme jealousy and ownership over his girl, the most common things from which he may suffer are low self-esteem and little confidence. A man who is mentally healthy will completely understand the woman’s needs for social interaction and won’t get jealous. But unfortunately, this kind of behaviour often leads to rage and violence.
So, when your partner shows any of these signs, the best thing for you will be to move on and enter in a relationship that you deserve to have. You should not be a victim, in order to nurture and rescue a damaged man. The right guy for you will be that who has already focused on his problems, in order to become the man that you will really need and want to have.